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Girly things
By Witchy | October 22, 2007
For the first half of our marriage, I took a certain pride in not being into “girly-girl things”.
I couldn’t sew, and didn’t want to. I didn’t knit or crochet. I didn’t wear dresses or skirts. I never had a manicure or a pedicure. I never had a facial. I rarely wore make-up. I hated shopping.
I learned to cook out of necessity - but it turned out I loved cooking. I still do.
Now, this isn’t to say I never did any of those things, but only when absolutely necessary.
And then, ten years ago, all of that changed. Maybe I finally grew up. Maybe I just discovered that girly things aren’t so bad. Maybe I just got comfortable with my own femininity and quit feeling threatened by doing things that are “traditionally” female.
And in doing so, I discovered a whole, new world.
I learned to sew, and found that I enjoy doing it. I’ve made dresses for my daughter, sweat shirts and sweat pants for my son and husband. I’ve made boxer shorts, neckties, and place-mats. I’ve made nighties, pajamas and bathrobes. Just today, I hemmed two new pairs of jeans, and they look like I just took them off the rack. Sewing is a handy skill, and one I am passing down to my own daughter.
I learned to crochet, and have made some beautiful things. Blankets, scarves, Yule decorations, and even a gorgeous fan-shaped hand-bag.
I started going for the odd manicure and pedicure, and I’ve had a handful of facials. I discovered that it was fun - it felt good - to do something just for me. Something girly.
To this day, I hate shopping - but it’s the crowds that bother me, not the shopping itself. Spending money is fun. I can’t believe it took so long to figure that out. But I still get in and out of a store as fast as I can. No window shopping for me. Maybe that’s why I do so much shopping online. No crowds.
I still prefer blue jeans over skirts, but I rarely wear a dress. I enjoy pretty underthings. Satin, lace - it’s all good.
I still don’t wear much make-up, and I look young for my age. I’ve seen forty-year-old women who look sixty without make-up. So maybe it’s a good thing that I’ve shunned wearing it for most of my life.
I’m glad I learned that girly things aren’t bad. I learned in time to be able to teach my daughter. She enjoys such things. And I’m glad.
To shun girly things because they are traditional is foolish. I am a woman. It’s what I am. I’m glad, so glad, I learned to embrace that.
My life is a whole lot more fun.
It’s cool to be a girl.
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October 22nd, 2007 at 4:39 pm
Send me a pic of you just wearing your girly underthings with fresh manicure and pedicure and I’ll give you my unvarnished — MANLY — opinion
October 22nd, 2007 at 4:40 pm
October 22nd, 2007 at 4:54 pm
You don’t trust my opinion??!!??
And all this time I thought we were sympatico
October 22nd, 2007 at 6:37 pm
October 22nd, 2007 at 8:16 pm
DAMMIT!
You’ve been married far too long!
You don’t fall for any trick!
Well … just for your information, my friends have been telling me I should stop wearing makeup, that David Bowie doesn’t even wear makeup anymore.
Glad you found the joy of girly things; it’s nice to celebrate our genders, even in some of the “traditonal” ways.
October 22nd, 2007 at 8:18 pm
I am SO glad your friends can be forthright with you about things like that… heheheh.
October 22nd, 2007 at 8:20 pm